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Debut author, Joyce A. Harvey introduces us to her memoir about the loss of her daughter, “Swan Lessons”: Swan Lessons: A Bereaved Mother’s Story of Courage and Discovery by Joyce A. Harvey is an account of military harassment, a series of poor decisions, and the desperate suicide of a young Lance Corporal. It describes the daunting challenge of a bereaved mother attempting to proceed with a public career in the midst of profound grief. It is also an amazing story of ongoing communication with the spirit of her daughter Jennifer, through dreams, signs, and spiritual mediums, including George Anderson. The author tackles tough subjects such as whether to pursue a wrongful death suit with the military. She also takes on clichés that are typically said to the grief-stricken and helps readers understand why they are better left unsaid. She shares dreams where she was “warned” that she might lose Jennifer and dreams in which Jennifer “visits” following her death. Ms. Harvey tells readers early in the book about her association of Jennifer’s death with the song “Vincent,” which refers to Vincent van Gogh’s suicide. Could the seemingly “coincidental” appearances of the song and references to Van Gogh be vehicles Jennifer uses to communicate with her mother from the afterlife? There are individual books on grief, suicide, dream work, after-death communication, spirituality, and abuse of power in the military. However, the author hasn’t found any examples written by a bereaved parent that combine all of these subjects into one book, as Swan Lessons does, helping readers to put it all together. As the book winds its way through the canyons of grief, it offers glimpses of hope, moments of utter astonishment, and examples of courage. The author skillfully weaves journal entries, as well as letters to and from Jennifer, to tell the story of a mother-daughter bond even death cannot sever. A powerful and well-written book! Though she describes it quite well, I find it very hard to imagine the grief that Joyce experienced. Isn’t that one of a parent’s worst nightmares? We, as parents, expect to pass on before our children. It seems the ordinary order of events. I have no reservation, in my mind, her pain was far worse than what she described. What she discovered after her daughter’s death is very fascinating. The communications from across the divide were extraordinary! I appreciate that she shared the good and the bad support she received from different people. Her extended family really stepped up to the plate. I award 4.9 stars to “Swan Lessons”. You can buy this book:
https://rdrpublishers.com/swan-lessons-a-bereaved-mothers-story-of-courage-and-discovery https://www.amazon.com/SWAN-LESSONS-Bereaved-Mothers-Discovery-ebook https://www.goodreads.com/-swan-lessons You can follow the author: https://joyceanneharvey.com https://www.facebook.com/joyceanneharvey grief, bereavement, death, heaven, Catholic church, suicide, dreams, signs, workplace abuse, military, marines Copyright © 2021 Mark L. Schultz except for the author’s introduction
50 Comments
9/5/2021 09:02:33 am
Mark, thank you for your wonderful review. Writing "Swan Lessons" was a labor of love. I wrote it in the hopes that it would help others who have lost a loved one or who were going through a crisis. The majority of the book was written in the first three years after my daughter's death. As I wrote in the introduction, the trigger for the timing of the book's release was Covid and the hundreds of thousands of people who had lost loved ones. I felt the timing was right to release "Swan Lessons."
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Mark
9/5/2021 12:50:06 pm
You are very welcome, Joyce. The timing seems good to me also. There has been a tremendous amount of loss endured by so many.
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9/6/2021 10:11:30 am
I have been writing all of my life. I was either journaling or writing short stories. I've been published in three volumes of "Chicken Soup for the Soul." I submitted two short stories to the 2000 Writer's Digest Writing Contest under the memoir category and won 2nd and 4th place out of a total of 19,000 submissions overall.
Mark
9/6/2021 11:50:44 am
Congratulations on those accomplishments. I think some people are born writers and some are born readers. I fall into the latter category.
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Joyce Harvey
9/6/2021 12:24:08 pm
Good question about the cover and the title of the book.
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Mark
9/6/2021 01:20:49 pm
Thanks for sharing the background of the picture. Cliff did a great job of interpreting your vision.
Joyce Harvey
9/6/2021 08:10:14 pm
I wrote a children's book on dying, and grief and loss called "I'm Fine ... I'm With the Angels." The book talks about the survival of the soul or spirit, even though the physical body dies. It is a wonderful tool for parents, psychologists, clergy, etc. to use with children who have a terminal illness or who have lost a loved one.
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Mark
9/7/2021 08:45:33 am
Those books sound wonderful! What a comfort they provide.
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Joyce Harvey
9/7/2021 04:49:56 pm
I have done a ton of public speaking. I won a speech contest in High School and took second place in a large college speech contest so that was a clue that public speaking might be a large part of my life, and it has been. After Jennifer died, I did a lot of speaking at bereavement conferences, either as a workshop presenter or as a keynote speaker. The Compassionate Friends, the largest international bereavement support organization for parents, just had their national conference. They went with a virtual conference again this year because of COVID. I presented two workshops: "Dreams of the Bereaved" and "Now Childless: Where Do We Go From Here?"
Mark
9/7/2021 06:34:54 pm
Congratulations on those awards! Many are afraid of public speaking. I certainly was during my teen years.
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Joyce Harvey
9/7/2021 06:35:35 pm
As far as quality goes, I don't think a major publisher would have done any better. However, major publishers have a larger budget for promotion of the books.
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Mark
9/7/2021 06:40:35 pm
The large publishers do have more money to promote books. But they seldom spend more than a pittance because their profit margins are so slim. If your last name isn't King or Patterson or another author whose books sell millions of copies little to no money will be spent to promote a book.
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Joyce Harvey
9/7/2021 07:49:43 pm
Some of my favorite authors are John Sanford, Lee Child, David Baldacci, and Brad Thor. The two books I kept from childhood/high school were "Diary of A Young Girl" by Anne Frank and "Wuthering Heights"
Mark
9/8/2021 06:51:34 am
We have the love of reading in common. I learned to read before starting first grade and never stopped. There were only 4 channels on TV and not much to watch. I read everything I could get my hands on and relatives sent me books for my birthday and Christmas.
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Joyce Harvey
9/8/2021 05:15:37 pm
I do a lot of spiritual and inspirational writing so it tends to energize me, if that's the right word. It doesn't tire me. When the muse is working well I am amazed sometimes when I read what I have written.
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Mark
9/8/2021 05:18:23 pm
Research has been improved in many ways with the internet. Still a lot of reading but finding the salient material is easier most of the time.
Joyce Harvey
9/8/2021 04:59:59 pm
No, I haven't.
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Mark
9/8/2021 05:19:35 pm
Very good.
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Joyce Harvey
9/9/2021 04:11:37 pm
I generally add more to flesh the story out. That was true with "Swan Lessons."
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Mark
9/9/2021 04:24:43 pm
I think a lot of writers are like that. Some have to add and some have to cut.
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Joyce Harvey
9/9/2021 05:54:57 pm
I am a very concise writer. "Say it with as few words as possible or you will lose the audience." Yet, put in enough description and dialogue so the reader feels like they are smack dab in the middle of your book.
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Mark
9/9/2021 06:16:50 pm
That makes a lot of sense. The first chapter was well written.
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Joyce Harvey
9/10/2021 09:22:29 am
I'll take your last question first.
Mark
9/10/2021 09:33:01 am
Thank you for the stats about suicide. I didn't know that nearly 133 people killed themselves everyday in the USA. Nearly 1/3 of those are active or retired military.
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9/10/2021 02:34:38 pm
I use Microsoft Word to write my books, short stories and articles.
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Mark
9/10/2021 02:46:56 pm
MS Word is very popular and has a huge installed user base around the world. It lists 40 some versions of English because it's the official language in many countries and taught as a second language in many more. Except America, that is.
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9/10/2021 04:50:35 pm
I had that happen in "I'm Fine ... I'm With the Angels." It was like the story was writing itself--like it wasn't coming from me. In the story, a social worker is talking to Johnny about what will happen when he dies and that there are people who will help his spirit cross over into heaven. She tells him about Mark whose job was to help young children cross over. Johnny replies, "Like the crossing guard at our school? She watches the signal lights and walks with us across the street when it's safe." After I wrote that I thought, "Wow! Where did that come from? That is really good!" So, yes. Sometimes the character swerves off in a direction you didn't see coming.
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Mark
9/10/2021 05:15:18 pm
A lot of writers report a similar experience. he also report that the story is improved because of that unexpected addition.
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9/10/2021 05:22:34 pm
That's an easy one to answer. I need silence. Nothing in the background and I need to be in my own office with all my "stuff" around me in case I need it: "Strunk and White", "Chicago Manual of Style" etc.
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Mark
9/10/2021 06:39:28 pm
We are a lot alike in that way. I can listen to worship and praise music in the background, but nothing else. My Chicago Manual of Style is back and center of my desk, right behind my laptop; easy to reach.
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9/10/2021 08:18:27 pm
Narration is easier for me and of the senses, I would say feeling is the easiest to write about.
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Mark
9/11/2021 08:51:17 am
Narration is very important. There has to be a way for the reader to understand why characters do what they do. Some kind of narration provides that whether first person, second person or third person.
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9/11/2021 04:54:10 pm
As an actress, one has to delve deep into a character's personality and motivation to give the right delivery to one's lines and to know why that character is making a certain move. So, yes, I do believe my theater experience has helped me in my writing. In addition, my study of psychology also contributes to character development.
Mark
9/11/2021 04:55:55 pm
Those are excellent insights you have gleaned from psychology. When writing, if the readers don't engage with and care about the characters, especially the antagonist and protagonist, then they will likely close the book without finishing it.
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9/11/2021 05:34:45 pm
I am going to give you a totally unconventional answer for how I knew my book was finished. Normally, when using MS Word, a footnote will appear at the bottom of the page where the word or name is referenced. I thought I was finished with "Swan Lessons" but when I printed my manuscript I could not get the footnotes to line up. (Later I changed them to End notes, but I digress.) Then it occurred to me how special it would be to have a chapter with Jen's letters coming to me and mine responding to her. When I completed that chapter, all the footnotes lined up!! I kid you not. It was if the muse was telling me I wasn't finished with the story. And "Letters from Boot Camp" was such a great add! It gives the reader a chance to hear Jen's voice directly--to read her own words. And since my lovely daughter was going to be an English teacher when she got out of the Marine Corps, I didn't have to correct any spelling or punctuation in her letters.
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Mark
9/11/2021 06:04:28 pm
That worked out quite well. Your muse is one sharp cookie.
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9/11/2021 06:28:49 pm
I really don't remember how long it took me to write the first draft because I was working (at another job) and I wrote it in chunks. I didn't start from Chapter 1.
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Mark
9/12/2021 11:35:46 am
I have heard from many authors who have written a book in a similar start-and-stop fashion. I think the influencing factors are different for each author.
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9/12/2021 01:19:29 pm
My book has been out such a short time that I haven't gone beyond it's current print form and Kindle.
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Mark
9/12/2021 03:10:15 pm
The more formats that are used the more people will find and buy a book.
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9/12/2021 07:16:51 pm
I have planned to have an audio book which I plan to narrate. I am a member of SAG & AFTRA and have done a number of voice-overs for videos, as well as radio and TV commercials.
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Mark
9/12/2021 08:55:57 pm
That is great. I bet you will do well narrating your audiobook. One of my favorite bloggers, Joanna Penn, did a blog about how to setup a simple at-home studio for DIY recording. Maybe it will be helpful for you, though I realize that you might have a space defined for that already. https://www.thecreativepenn.com/2019/08/07/build-your-own-audio-sound-booth
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9/13/2021 04:24:25 pm
I found my alpha readers through the Maui Writer's Convention--fellow writers who were not friends per se.
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Mark
9/13/2021 05:01:55 pm
Beta readers are so important, aren't they? Getting fresh eyes on a raw or nearly raw manuscript goes a long ways toward the polishing process.
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9/13/2021 05:10:26 pm
I have generally given them a hard copy that I printed so they could write in the margins or on the back of a page.
Mark
9/13/2021 05:44:38 pm
I know some authors like to deal with a hard copy. It is pretty easy to do that. You can lay the same page out for all of the betas at the same time to look for patterns and similar comments.
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9/13/2021 05:50:29 pm
Mark, this has been a wonderful opportunity, and I enjoyed immensely talking with you about "Swan Lessons" and my writing in general.
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