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Lately Lesbian By J. D. Simmons

4/18/2020

64 Comments

 
Debut author, J. D. Simmons introduces us to her memoir, “Lately Lesbian”:
Good Southern girls follow the rules and walk down predictable paths. Jenna predictably married Paul and believed in happily ever after. Although Jenna played by all the rules, she had no idea the tragic turns that her life would take--the tragic death of her first baby, and the unexpected loss of a second baby. There would be more heartbreak. Would Jenna ever be blessed with a child that she wanted with all her heart? Would Paul step up and become the husband and partner she only dared to dream of? Jenna needed the support of her husband, his sympathetic shoulder to cry on, and strong arms to hold her, but he cast an absentee ballot most of the time.
Then out of the blue, Jenna crossed paths with a young woman and her life changed in ways that she never could have imagined. For too many years, Jenna drifted through life searching for answers to understand her undeniable attraction to this woman and uncover her true authentic self. Denial reigned supreme until one phone call changed everything.
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This memoir is quite a story. It is well written and populated with real people. Penned in first person point of view, as befitting a memoir, it chronicles the struggle the author endured to find a person who would love and cherish her for who she is. This is one of the deepest needs of the human spirit, it is something we all want and we suffer damage when we don’t get it.
The author does a marvelous job of setting the scene for the events in the story. The dialogue rings with authenticity. She includes enough action to keep the story moving forward. It never really bogged down for me, like memoirs can at times. The inner narration wasn’t harsh, but it was gritty at times and very honest.
I award 4.8 stars to “Lately Lesbian”. 
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You can buy this book:
https://www.amazon.com/Lately-Lesbian-J-D-Simmons-ebook 
https://www.goodreads.com/-lately-lesbian 
https://bookbaby.com/Lately-Lesbian 
https://www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/lately-lesbian 

You can follow the author:
https://twitter.com/JDSimmons8 
https://www.facebook.com/jdsimmonsofficial 
https://instagram.com/jdsimmons61 
 
Tags: LGBTQ, gay, biography

​Copyright © 2020 Mark L. Schultz except for the author’s introduction
64 Comments
J. D. Simmons link
4/18/2020 08:17:35 pm

Mark, thanks so much for being such an awesome support to authors! I wish I would have known about your incredible service prior to editing and finalizing my book. But alas, even after publishing you are still around to help us promote our books!! I'm delighted with the detailed and specific feedback you provided for Lately Lesbian and over the moon with my 4.8 stars. I loved that you said, "it never really bogged down for me." I have read some books over the years that I've put down and never finished because I got so bogged down. When I wrote my book, I wanted it to be a relevant, entertaining, and worthwhile read. Thank you, Mark, for validating my work.

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Mark
4/18/2020 10:45:22 pm

J. D. you are very welcome. It's my honor and pleasure to work with authors. I am a little selfish, I must admit, I love to read and the only way I get to read is if fine authors, like yourself, write books. My proofreading skill and talent allows me to help polish good books into better books.
Years ago I read part of a book, with five to twelve errors on almost every page, it became to onerous to finish it. I do like to finish a book.
First question.
Please, tell us more about yourself. Perhaps something a little bit beyond your bio.

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J.D. Simmons link
4/18/2020 11:51:25 pm

I am semi-retired now, but spent many years as a teacher and elementary school administrator. Loved my career! I credit my profession with making me a better person.
In my book, I reference my family and how important they are to me! I'm so lucky to have five grandchildren!
Although Lately Lesbian is my first book, I have always wanted to write a book--it just took me a long time to do it. Now I dream of writing another. I'm not sure if I have a good fiction in me, but I think I could be interested in researching and writing another non-fiction book.
Besides my family, my favorite things are running (I'm slow, but have nine half-marathons under my belt) and spending a lot of time working in my yard. I love, love, love Mexican food and margaritas! I currently have two cats, but have had dogs, too!

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Mark
4/18/2020 11:57:51 pm

Grandchildren are wonderful. We both have five grandchildren. Our count has been four girls, until the day after Christmas, our grandson was born. He is cuter than a bug's ear!
Whatever your favorite genre to read in might be a good place to start.
New questions.
What inspired you to write this book?
Does your work, or past work if you are retired, have any influence on your writing?

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J.D. Simmons link
4/19/2020 09:16:37 am

When someone reads my book, they see the long journey that I took to come to terms with a love denied for many years, but also a long journey to find the courage to truly accept myself for who I am and to be ok with that. My partner, my sister, and a few close friends told me that I had a story to tell and that my story may help other people struggling with finding self or staying in an unfulfilling marriage. Ultimately if my book can speak to a reader in a special way, then I've succeeded.

In my job, I wrote a lot. I remember when I was a young teacher, my school had to prepare a report with many lengthy sections. When I turned in my section, my principal told me that it was the one part that he didn't have to spend a lot of time editing. It was the first time in my life that someone complimented me on my writing and made me proud of my skill.

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Mark
4/19/2020 10:27:14 am

Helping others in their journey is a noble goal.
That was a nice compliment to receive from your boss. Not many are born with that skill, though many are born with the desire to have that skill.
New questions.
Who designed the cover of your book? Feel free to drop a link if appropriate.
What do the elements on the cover represent?

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J.D. Simmons link
4/19/2020 02:48:02 pm

Because I had no experience or idea of how to self-publish my book, I enlisted the help of BookBaby. The cover of my book was designed by one of their artists (I don't know his/her name). I believe BookBaby keeps that info confidential, although I'm not completely sure.

I will never forget the evening that I received the mock-up of my book cover! I was dining out with friends and when I pulled it up on my phone, I loved it immediately! I had some input into the basic elements and the cover color. I believe the cover of my book is eye-catching, simple, and beautiful. If you look closely at the cover, you will notice five people which represent the most important characters in my book. The woman in the foreground represents me. The male figure behind me in black represents my ex-husband. The side profile of the woman behind him represents my partner in the book, Jessie. The two other figures in the background (male and female) represent my son and daughter.

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Mark
4/19/2020 03:35:03 pm

I don't know if Bookbaby has artists on staff or if they outsource that. I guessed correctly about the three larger people on your cover, I wasn't sure about who the last two were. It is a nice arrangement. The figure that represents Jessie is well designed. The white silhouette can be walking into Jena's life or out of it.
New questions.
Was it hard to come up with the title? What was the process?
Were the character names difficult to develop? How did you choose them?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/19/2020 08:19:18 pm

I thought of the title for my book pretty early in the writing process. "Lately" in reference to my age and the time in my life that I took a new path. There have been a few times that I have regretted my title and wondered if I should have chosen a title more benign sounding. I say that because some people, I believe, may decide not to read my book because they are not gay or don't approve of the gay lifestyle. I believe that some of the themes and underlying messages in my book are applicable to many relationships and individuals regardless of gender, age, or sexual preferences. I would love to know that someone who had a closed mind to same sex relationships or marriage would pick up my book, read it, and it would open up their heart. I suffered with guilt and silence for many years because I was afraid of what people would think of me. My parents died relatively early and I never had the opportunity to share with them my feelings and my identity. It may have been a shock at first because of the traditional way that I was raised, but I believe love would have won in the end.
None of the names in my book, including my own, are the real names of the people in my life. I decided to protect the innocent along with the guilty. I also chose to write my book under a pen name. I asked several of the main characters in my book to choose a name that they wanted. My sister, for example, chose Ellen. My partner chose Jessie. Some of the remaining names were favorites or unfavorites of mine!

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Mark
4/19/2020 08:45:53 pm

The thought process for the title makes sense to me. I agree, the themes are relevant for all people.
I like how you let some of them choose a name for the character representing them.
New questions.
Who in the story knows and doesn't know about your book?
Have you entered any writing contests?
Have you won awards of any kind for your writing?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/19/2020 11:01:50 pm

My ex-husband doesn't know about my book! I don't think that I would ever tell him about it. There are many parts of the book that are not complimentary of him, but I told the truth. My partner's ex doesn't know about the book. It's just a hunch, but I think that she would be furious if she read it because it doesn't paint a pretty picture of her, either. Also, my partner's daughter, who is now in college, isn't aware of the book. Both of my children know about the book and are fine with it.
As a matter of fact, I have entered some writing contests. I entered the 2019 American Book Fest Best Book Awards and was honored to be named a finalist in the LGBTQ Non-Fiction category.
I was also recently named a finalist in 2019 The Wishing Shelf Awards (United Kingdom) in the Adult Non-Fiction (Category 6).
As a new, unknown author, it means so much when your work is validated!
Most of my friends and family have praised me for my book and assured me that it was good, but it's so rewarding when a reader that doesn't know me personally leaves a great review!

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Mark
4/20/2020 12:14:46 am

Congratulations on being a finalist twice! That is commendable. If you get stickers for the cover, send me a new cover and I will replace the one here on my review.
You are probably wise to keep the circle small about your book. Only those that need to know are a good choice.
One of these days you will get a poor review, don't let that shake you. I tell authors that Just as every book has an audience, the reverse is also true, every book has a non-audience. People who won't like it, for one reason or another. I remind authors that a bad review actually validates all the good reviews. Now people know it's not just your sister and her cats that are writing the glowing reviews. If a troll pans your book, it will be obvious and they deserve only to be ignored.
New questions.
I noticed that you didn’t put your book in Kindle Unlimited. Why is that?
Have you ever gone through the query process, seeking an agent or submitting directly to publishers; or did you go straight to indie publishing or self-publishing, and why?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/20/2020 10:28:32 am

Great questions! I hope this information is correct--I inquired with BookBaby recently about going with KU. Evidently that is a choice I needed to make at the time that I published my book. I was so disappointed because I've heard it's a great way to expand the sales of a book. There is so much information I didn't know as a new author and I'm still learning every day.

I never tried sending my book to an agent or publisher. I heard so many stories of rejections over and over again for authors! I went straight to BookBaby for several reasons. They seemed to have a total publishing package, i. e. cover design, worldwide distribution, eBook conversion & distribution, direct to reader sales with Bookshop (website) and printed books & eBook ISBNs.
I had worked on my book for over 7 years. There were times that I put it down and decided that I was "too chicken" to follow through with publishing it. Then a friend, or my partner, or in some cases, even a stranger would encourage me to tell my story. I was concerned that if I didn't go the self-publishing route that more time would slip by. In retrospect, I wish I had given the agent/publisher route a try. Even now, I wonder, "Can a publisher pick up my book to promote it even though it was self-published?"

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Mark
4/20/2020 11:20:45 am

Another effect from the Amazon publishing boom is that traditional publishers are on the ropes. So many of them have closed or been swallowed up competitors. Their profit margins have shrunk and they take far fewer chances than they used to.
All of these factors contribute to a high rate of rejections, especially for indie authors. Some indie authors publish several books, track sales for several years, develop a fan base and build an email list of fans; hoping to obtain a contract. Some publishers won't even look at an author unless they have a mailing list numbering in the thousands.
The downside for an indie author is losing control of their book. The cover maybe changed, publication may be delayed for a year or more, and worst of all is the potential loss of Intellectual Property rights.
Some publishers want to grab as much of an author's IP rights as they can. It's important to never sign a contract without having a knowledgeable lawyer go over it carefully.
I do not know if a publisher would be interested in publishing a book that is already published. My guess is not, royalties might be an issue. It might be worth investigating, search through the blogosphere.
New questions.
How was the experience publishing your book with Amazon?
How do you think your book compares to a book published by a major publisher?
There are many unethical practices in publishing, which one is the most unbearable in your mind?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/20/2020 12:49:13 pm

I actually never directly worked with Amazon because BookBaby handled all of the publishing connections with Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Kobo, etc.
I think overall I've had a great experience going through publishing as an indie author. As I mentioned earlier, BookBaby took care of a lot of the steps that I did not have experience with. Of course, BookBaby charges a fee and I'm yet to realize a profit on my book, but hopefully with time I will.
I think the most unethical practice that would be unbearable to me would be to copy my writing and then try to republish under a different title. As I mentioned earlier, my book was a long time in the making and it is the story of a large part of my life--all true!

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Mark
4/20/2020 01:49:31 pm

Yes, you mentioned BookBaby more than once, it slipped my mind. The nice thing about a book, it is always ready to be purchased.
Plagiarism is a serious issue. If BookBaby doesn't make regular checks for plagiarism of the books they publish, you should take control of that. There are blogs that have been published about that process. I have a link to at least one on my Highly Regarded Blogs page.
New questions.
How did you choose that point in your life to start your memoir?
Do you have a favorite book by another author or just favorite authors?
Did you have a favorite book as a child?

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J.D. Simmons link
4/20/2020 05:37:40 pm

Many years ago when I met my future partner and began to deal internally with some personal revelations, I never knew the twists and turns my life would take. As I said in my book, when I spoke my vows, I intended to be committed for life to my husband. I now know that I didn't fully know myself and I grew and matured in a way that couldn't have been predicted. My tumultuous path to finding my authentic self and true acceptance of myself, as a member of the LGBTQ community, created a new beginning for me. This new beginning seemed the perfect time to share my story with others.

I love to read! I can't say that I have one favorite author or book because my reading interests are so varied. A long time ago, I remember reading Nicholas and Alexandra, and I loved it because of the history. I really liked Prince of Tides by Pat Conroy, a good South Carolina author! I like the classics--my all-time favorite might be To Kill A Mockingbird. I know that she's no longer alive, but would love to have lunch with Harper Lee.
When I read I want to be pulled into the story and entertained. I'm not super critical of books because every author, every story is different. I respect that.
I don't remember a favorite book as a little child, but when I got old enough to read chapter books, I was totally enthralled with Nancy Drew.

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Mark
4/20/2020 05:47:38 pm

I love to read also. For most of my life I read only science fiction and fantasy. In the last ten years I have read such a wide variety of books that now I appreciate good writing regardless of the genre.
Like you, I get deep into a book, I am there and feeling the pain, fear, love and hunger. The better the writing the deeper I am involved.
When I was in grade school, I read many volumes of a series called The Happy Hollisters. A family of five or six kids that solved mysteries in their neighborhood. I think a relative purchased them for us, I loved them.
New questions.
Does writing have a spiritual or healing component for you, does it energize you or make you feel tired?
Why is it important for writers to tap into the emotions of the characters?
Have you ever done NaNoWriMo?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/20/2020 09:51:48 pm

When I began writing my book, it was a long, involved process. It took me nearly 8 years. Sometimes it was so emotional for me that I would put my book down and not pick it up for many months. Many times, I didn't believe I had the guts to put my story out there. Fear is very powerful. When I wrote about the tragic losses in my life, it was so emotional and when, as a writer, you go back and read and reread to edit, you stir up all those feelings and emotions again. At times, it was emotionally tiring and draining. Ultimately my book was very cathartic for me.
When you start writing a book, it's a clean canvas, I believe as an author you have to "paint" your characters into life. When a book gives you real characters you can see them, but if the writer is doing their job, you feel them, they capture you, and they pull you into the story where you linger for a while in another place and time. Have you stopped reading a book after a few chapters and you think about it until you can get back to it? You miss the book and the characters like a friend. I often felt sad when I've finished some books.
No, I have never done NaNoWriMo and didn't even know about it until this past November. It sounds fascinating to me, but also challenging, fun, and almost impossible to write 50,000 words in one month! Who knows, I might give it a try!

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Mark
4/20/2020 10:08:17 pm

That makes a lot of sense that going through those events, painful as they were, repeatedly would tire you out. The process let you examine and probe the darker corners, ultimately leaving you in better shape after finishing, than before you started.
The description of the the author as a painter is quite elegant, I like it a lot. I have experienced that bittersweet let down after finishing a wonderful book, on many occasions.
I hope you do try NanoWriMo. Join a group or two and let them encourage you. It takes only 2000 words a day, if you don't write on Sunday; the word count drops if you do write on Sunday. I bet you can do it. People who are plotters, spend September and October plotting out chapters and doing research ahead of time, so they can devote the month to writing only, as much as possible. Remember, it's only a first draft, it's not supposed to be ready for publishing.
New questions.
Are you an under-writer or an over-writer? When the first draft is done, do you need to add more to flesh it out or do you have to cut material because there is too much?
Are you talking about sentences, paragraphs or a chapter that didn't survive the final cut?
Do you save the parts that didn't make it into the final version?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/20/2020 10:46:35 pm

Before I answer the latest interview questions, I want to thank you for the effort, encouragement, and suggestions that you put into your responses! The questions are high quality and thought provoking. This whole process is really quite amazing!

I am definitely an over-writer. I think it might be related to the fact that, at times, I can be an over-talker! When I wrote my book, I had to cut quite a lot. I cut some because I didn't want my reader to get bogged down! There were chapters that survived my cuts but were pared down quite a bit. The whole editing process was brutal, in my opinion. I read and reread my book. I read it backwards and forwards more than once. When I submitted it for publication, I found it extremely hard to let it go because I knew that I probably missed some errors, but I had to let it go to preserve some measure of my sanity!
I did save the parts that didn't make it into the final version. There was one chapter, in particular, that was written about aging and my grandmother. I cut it but felt sentimental about it, so I saved it. I think I cut it because I thought it may not go with the flow, but it really had some good parts in it--some humor. I love it if I think my reader can really laugh at parts in my book!

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Mark
4/20/2020 11:56:06 pm

Thanks for the compliment. I appreciate that. I have been working on this list for the best part of three years. I keep thinking of new questions or changing old ones.
A lot of writers are the same. They go crazy with the first draft and that is a great idea. The first draft has only one purpose, to get the story out of your head. You can only edit what is on paper.
I think it's very smart to save what is removed. There can be material for the beginning of another book, or a side story. More so for fiction than non-fiction, much of the time.
Aging is a big issue now, for us boomers, especially for those of us taking care of our parents or other older family members. Laughing our way through problems and situations is better than crying most of the time. Laughter is energizing.
New questions.
What is your writing routine when you sit down to write?
Do you write in a straight line or do you write whatever the muse provides for you at a given moment?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/21/2020 05:27:58 pm

I don't know that I have a set routine when I write. When I started my book, I was still working full-time and had a very demanding job, so I wrote at night when I felt inclined to do so or on the weekends. With my book, I had to be in the mood to put words on paper and I often wrote down thoughts that came to me over a period of days or weeks.

After I got the basic outline of my book, I started at the beginning and wrote according to my timeline. However, after I had the basic outline down and what I would call a rough draft, I decided to insert chapters about Jessie's life (my partner in the book) and alternate back and forth between her life and mine until our paths crossed and we began our relationship. I did, to begin with, had dates and notes that I worked from. Often, I might be driving in my car, and I would audio record notes on my phone that I could pull up later to add to my book.

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Mark
4/21/2020 05:43:58 pm

As painful as it was at times, being in the mood was important.
Working from that timeline and inserting Jessie's story worked quite well.
Quite a few authors have mentioned using their phone to make notes, audio or otherwise. I think that is a good idea. It is so easy to lose a thought, hours after it's development, it is not recorded, one way or another.
New questions.
What else are you writing these days? Are you writing anything for yourself or only for readers?
Do you have a classical author or poet, you admire?
What popular modern authors have influenced you?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/21/2020 06:40:45 pm

For the present, I am not actively writing or working on a project. I've entertained some ideas in my mind, but haven't settled on a project at this time. There is a lot of work involved in promoting a book, especially if you are an unknown author! I've spent a lot of time in the last year trying to get my book out there.

There are so many wonderful classical authors--it would like trying to choose a favorite song or movie--just can't do it! But earlier, I mentioned Harper Lee. I think she was a genius, so forward thinking and before her time. To Kill A Mockingbird is still relevant and holds timely messages about how we treat each other as human beings. Truman Capote's, In Cold Blood, is an amazing work and based on real life events. I read that he researched for six years before he wrote the book. That type of writing, research based and real events/people, is very appealing to me. I would
actually consider such a writing project myself. I must say that one of my all time favorite poets is Maya Angelou--I love the simplicity of her poems and positive messages of never giving up.

I'm not sure that I can name one particular author that has influenced me. I didn't begin my career as a writer and I wasn't formally trained or educated as a writer. I just love to read and have read so many different types of writing throughout my life. For example, I have a couple of political columnists that I follow. I'm so in awe of their talent and their writing ability!

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Mark
4/21/2020 07:52:26 pm

I am glad to hear you are entertaining ideas. Let me suggest you start a notebook for your ideas, perhaps a page for each idea, no more than two.
Reading in multiple genres certainly hasn't hurt you. That kind of education is priceless.
New questions.
What software do you use to write your books, and why do you use that software?
When you write your next book, do you think you will be a plotter, a pantster, or a hybrid?
I know there are many ways to build the outline. Do you do it all on the computer or do you get analog with post-its or note cards?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/21/2020 09:59:13 pm

I wrote Lately Lesbian on Microsoft Word. I'm comfortable with Word and like some of the features under the "Review" tab such as tracking changes, accepting/rejecting changes, word count, etc.
When I write my next book, I think I would fit more into the category of a plotter than anything else. By nature, especially when tackling an important task, I'm an organizer. I think that I would do research, craft an outline, and then begin writing in a mostly sequential way. I'm not experienced enough to be a hybrid, but it would be wonderful to reach that apex one day!
Sometimes I do use handwritten notes--post-its here and there or index cards. For the most part, though, I work on the computer. I believe my outline for Lately Lesbian was totally on the computer.

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Mark
4/21/2020 10:27:01 pm

MS Word has a huge user base, so it's no surprise that so many authors use that for writing.
There is another program called Scrivener, I think it works with MS Word. It is powerful, organizing software for writers. I have heard it has a steep learning curve, but those that conquer it sing its praises to the high heavens.
New questions.
Do you have defined space for writing at home, or are you a coffee-shop writer?
Do you listen to music or have the TV on when writing, or do you need quiet?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/22/2020 12:02:11 pm

Mark, thanks so much for your suggestions and valuable tips along the way--so helpful!!!
I think that I can write just about anywhere. I have a few spots in my house that I use regularly--one is a big, comfy chair in my den and I put my laptop on my lap and work away. Another go-to place is at my breakfast table with a more supportive chair. Sometimes I play music and sometimes the TV is on. I don't have to have quiet. I'm pretty good at focusing and shutting out the distractions.

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Mark
4/22/2020 12:33:39 pm

You are most welcome. I an happy to share what I have learned along the way. I have learned a lot from authors and bloggers.
Lucky you, being able to work in different places under different conditions.
When I am reading a good book, I can do it anywhere under any conditions, as long as I can keep the book in my hands and have enough light. Proofreading is a very different. I need mostly quiet to give my best.
New questions.
Action, dialogue, or narration; which is easiest to write?
Of the five senses which is the easiest to write and which is the hardest?
Have you ever participated in theater in some way?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/22/2020 03:39:19 pm

In my opinion, action is the easiest to write because you can move the story forward or backwards and cover a lot of ground quickly. I think that dialogue is more challenging, although it can be more efficient than narration.
I believe that sight is the easiest sense to write because so many of us are visual learners. I believe that when we describe a character or something in the setting it's easier to describe it visually first. In essence, we paint a picture with our words and the reader begins to assimilate a visual from our language. I think that smell could be the hardest to write about, although I think smells have such a powerful link to our brains and memories that we quickly identify with an author's description of a smell.
I have never acted or performed in the theater. By nature, I'm a very outgoing person and some of my friends would probably say, "the life of the party", but I don't believe I have the talent for acting. I think that is such a gift!

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Mark
4/22/2020 04:08:24 pm

Action scenes are quite versatile, no doubt about that. You can speed it up with short, choppy sentences or slow it down with lots of descriptive phrases and adjectives.
Yes, we are visually oriented as a species. No question about that. Authors paint multi-hued pictures with words and nothing more. Quite a remarkable feat, if you ask me.
I have recommended to authors they take a course in playwriting or screenwriting, because it provides a different angle to writing a novel.
New questions.
What kind of marketing are you doing or planning on doing for your book?
Speaking of marketing, why did you pick me to help promote your book?
Do you have a newsletter you send out to fans? Why or why not?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/22/2020 05:44:44 pm

I have found that marketing my book as an unknown, indie author is probably the most challenging part of this entire process! That's why the service that you provide is invaluable! Social media has been a critical step in connecting with other authors and getting my book out there. I have entered some writing contests in order to bring visibility to my book. I have solicited reviews which hopefully will entice people to "want" to read my book. I conducted a Goodreads Giveaway hoping that I could acquire some good reviews from people that I didn't know, but I don't think one of the people that received my book that way left a review of my book :(. I'm hoping in the future to visit some bookstores and do some book signings. I'm waiting for a famous person like Ellen or Oprah to read my book, love it, and give it a little push in my sales. :) Please let me know if anyone has connections!!
I believe that I came across you on Twitter! When I went to your website and read about the service you provide, I was ecstatic! Great deal and I feel like I have a super-duper cheerleader in my court! Like I said before, I wish I had known about your word refining service and I would have used you before I published. For my next book, it will be great to have you as an option.
I haven't looked into the newspaper option yet. I think that would definitely be a great idea.

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Mark
4/22/2020 06:22:40 pm

So many authors get stumped by the marketing problem. It is the never ending story. Thanks, Amazon. With a million books a year being published by Amazon, it takes a great deal of effort to get an indie book to rise to the surface and get noticed.
I and other promoters like me are one small part of the marketing equation. I have lists on my Twitter home page, including book reviewers and book promoters. Check their requirements carefully.
There are so many other ways to promote a book. Book signings are good, so are book fairs. It's good to pursue the local author angle by seeking interviews with local newspapers, TV and radio stations. In bigger towns, there is cable access, college and high school broadcast arts clubs and classes. Book clubs are pretty plentiful also, some of them love to have an author come and speak to them. Places frequented by tourists will place a few copies of a book if a counter-top holder is available. Museums, gift shops, restaurants, hotels, motels, camping clubs, B&Bs for a few ideas.
Blogs have been written about how to get your book into a library. Small book stores will take sometimes take a few copies wholesale or on consignment.
An author has to take the creative hat off and put the business hat on.
The problem is marketing eats into writing time. I advise authors to set aside time every week or two for marketing activities.
Blogs have been written about newsletters also. An active marketing plan cannot ignore the fan base. The fan base needs to be built and cultivated for long term effectiveness, a newsletter is one part of that process.
I look forward to working with you on your next book. Contact me at least a couple months ahead of time. I tell authors that I provide the best value after all the editing and rewriting is done.
New questions.
How did you know when your book was finished?
Did anything in the book come as a surprise while you were writing?
How long did it take you to write the first draft?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/22/2020 08:47:27 pm

I knew that my book was finished because I had told my story honestly and thoroughly and had reached a point in my life where it everything came together beautifully. I told the story of my long marriage and the quiet desperation that I settled into for so many years. In my book, I revealed my inner struggles that persisted and how I came to terms with and finally accepted myself. Finally, I told about the freedom in living life authentically and a life renewed.

As I was writing, I think I was surprised, at times, when I could feel the power in my words. Sometimes in the editing process, I would reread sections of my book and felt very satisfied and proud--that surprised me because I can very critical of myself.

It took me years to finish a first draft, but that's because I put my book away for months at a time--I was fearful about revealing the truth and was unsure if I ever really wanted to put my story out there. While I was still thinking about whether or not I would publish, my partner and I traveled to Italy. I had never been traveled abroad. While in Rome, we went to a gay bar and met some gay men--they were fascinated because we were Americans and wanted to know our story. There was one young man who sat down next to me and asked all about my relationship with my partner. He seemed spellbound. When he got ready to leave, he said, "You have to write a book. It would help people." Of course, he had no idea that I had already finished my book, but was struggling with whether or not I should publish.

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Mark
4/22/2020 09:07:24 pm

In one respect, you are very blessed. Many authors are not always sure when the book is done. At some point they decide enough is enough and they publish, hoping for the best. In fact, some writers never publish because they want to do one more pass through the book. I think they are bound in fear.
The length of time for writing that first draft makes a lot of sense. The story about the trip to Rome is very interesting. International travel can be quite eye opening. I backpacked around western Europe during my college years, one summer.
New questions.
A lot of new authors struggle with finding beta readers. Because, after the first draft is done, fresh eyes and feedback become very important.
Did you have alpha-readers and/or beta-readers to help you smooth out a lot of wrinkles before publishing? If you didn’t, why?
If you did, how did you find them?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/23/2020 09:54:25 am

I didn't really enlist an alpha reader because I tried to make my rough draft pretty clean before I let someone first read it for me. That first someone was my partner. She was totally absorbed and told me when she finished that she couldn't believe I had accomplished such an endeavor. It was a great compliment.
My second beta reader was my sister. She did an excellent job and gave me feedback several times through some rewrites and revisions. It's because of her that I deleted some chapters and added some. After she read it the first time, she said, "My God, I've known you all these years and I've lived through these things with you, but I can't believe this is a true story! It's almost too much for one person."

Mark, you mentioned earlier in our interview about critics and not to put too much weight on negative reviews. I think when someone reads my book and responds in a positive way, they get it. They get my message and in some small way they can relate to my story. That's extremely gratifying to me.

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Mark
4/23/2020 10:08:51 am

Your beta readers were very important to the development of your manuscript. They served you well.
Every author loves to get good reviews. There are people who delight in leaving bad reviews. Collectively, they are known as trolls. Many times their reviews show a clear lack of actually reading the book. While quite vexing to the author, Amazon usually ignores the pleas of the author to remove a spurious review. Every thinking person will recognize the intent of the hurtful review.
Next questions.
Do you give your beta readers an e-version like a PDF or a hard copy you printed?
What kind of questions did you ask them to get the feedback you wanted or do you let them provide feedback without particular questions?
Will you seek out new beta readers or work with the same ones as before for your next book?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/23/2020 11:55:58 am

I gave both of my beta readers a printed copy of my draft and asked them to make corrections and notes on the copy. It worked well.

I didn't write down a specific set of questions for my beta readers. Once they finished the read, it was easy based on our follow-up conversation to pursue areas that needed revision. I generally asked for feedback about the flow of my book, asked them to check for errors, and asked for sections/parts that may be confusing to the reader. Of course, in the end, I wanted to know if they thought it was worth reading and if they thought I should move forward with the publishing process.
I think that I will definitely seek out beta readers again. Who I choose to read will probably be based on the genre of my book. I am very trusting of the feedback that I got from my sister and partner--so I would probably use them again, but would reach out to other people.

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Mark
4/23/2020 01:31:54 pm

Having your beta readers so close, literally or figuratively, was quite fortunate. You knew you could trust them to tell you the truth. I don't think a lot of writers are so lucky. I think they seek out at least four to six beta readers, if not more, looking for a diversity of opinions and a consensus on major issues. I think expanding your beta readers is a very good idea. In fact, you could use your sister and partner as alpha readers instead.
Critique partners are another group you should seek out to help you polish your next book. Whether meeting as a group in a common location regularly, or virtually via facetime or email, fellow writers can be a great help to a newly published author such as yourself.
New questions.
Going back in time, did you do any kind of creative writing, even back in grade school?
How early was it that you realized how powerful words can be?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/23/2020 03:17:28 pm

Thanks for more great suggestions, Mark! I don't really remember writing a whole lot throughout my early years. When I was in college, I had a really good English professor who I believe impacted my improvement in writing and I began to enjoy writing and looking forward to his next assignment. Also, when I was in college during my sophomore year, my true love broke up with me and broke my heart. I was devastated and never saw it coming. I believed that we were destined to be married. I began to write poetry, for the first time in my life, and it helped me tremendously to heal and get over him. I loved writing poetry--it probably wasn't very good--but it was powerful for me because I discovered it was therapeutic.

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Mark
4/23/2020 04:37:00 pm

You are welcome. That is what I am here for.
Being in a class that you really enjoy is wonderful, so much of college can be a drudgery.
Breaking up like that is very painful. I think a lot of people discover writing poetry can be so helpful, including me.
New questions.
What are three things, that you wish you knew before you wrote your first book?
Do you have a hero, real or fictional?
What is the most valuable piece of advice you have ever received from another writer?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/23/2020 06:51:45 pm

Three things I wish I knew before I wrote my first book -- that's a tough question!
1. I wish I would have known how difficult the marketing of my book would have been as an independent author--I don't know if it would have changed anything, but I have felt sometimes like I'm flying by the seat of my pants.
2. Despite a lot of negativity about finding an agent or a publisher, I wish I would have given that route a try--set a specified period of time just to see if someone would have picked up my book.
3. I wish I would have known more about resources like "Word Refiner" before I spent big bucks on paying for an editing service that I may have not needed.

I think that the biggest heroes in my life were my parents. They were amazing people--smart, funny, wonderful parents, and hard workers. They taught me to work hard and to do my best. I learned from my parents that no matter how bad things seem to be, you better count your blessings because it could be worse.
There are so many heroes in my life! Some of my friends are my heroes because of how they have lived their lives. My partner is a personal hero because she is such a positive, good person despite hardships throughout her life. My daughter is also a hero of mine. She was diagnosed with breast cancer while pregnant this year. She has been so brave, such a fighter. She is doing great and the baby will be a year old this summer.
One of my American heroes are Ruth Bader Ginsberg--amazing, amazing human being! I love Ellen DeGeneres because she's done so many good and positive things. I could go on and on . . . so many everyday heroes.
I think the most valuable advice that I've received from another writer is to just keep writing--you said that--keep a notebook and try to write nearly every day! I've been thinking a lot lately about my next book and in what direction I want to go.

Mark
4/23/2020 07:13:28 pm

It seems many authors don't think about marketing until a few weeks after they have pushed the publish button; when nothing is happening with their book. The sad truth is they should have started marketing a year before. Nonetheless, today is better than tomorrow. Getting started will pay off in the long run.
Traditional publishers are very reluctant to take on an unknown author, that gets worse every year.
Some big-name authors are starting to leave the traditional publishing houses, for a variety of reasons, most likely. The dark side of traditional publishing is that an author loses so much control over their book. It can be a year or longer before a book is published traditionally.
Thank you for that compliment. However, I recommend that an author has their book edited and all the rewriting is completed before they send me their book. That's when I provide the best value to an author. I am a polisher.
Your answer to the hero question is wonderful. So many don't have heroes at all.
I am glad you are thinking about your next book.
New questions.
What are common traps for beginning writers?
Do you think a strong ego is an asset or liability for a writer and why?
Can you describe the demographic of your ideal reader? Who is the person most likely to buy your book?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/24/2020 12:04:16 pm

I think that because publishing is so readily available to authors nowadays that can be a disservice to authors who may not go slow and steady to publish their best book possible. I think the whole process is so massive that there's just no way that a new or beginning author can understand the entire process ahead of time.
Writing the best book possible can't be rushed. It's a long process to outline, write, edit, secure some beta readers, and finally publish. I've read a few indie books recently that contained a lot of editing errors--mostly simple things, but it definitely was distracting for the reader. I think the timing can be a downfall for some writers. What I mean is that the timing of your book can be critical to it success. If that means more research in order to get the most complete story, then spending more time is time well spent. Also, I think it's so important to practice the craft of writing. Many good writers say that they write every day!
I think that it's also critical to secure some reliable beta readers. People that will give you an HONEST opinion! I would ask them--Is my story relevant, interesting? Did you get bogged down while reading it? Does it need major editing? Would you pay to buy this book and after reading it, would you feel like you had some takeaways? Is this book good enough to recommend to others?
A strong ego may be important for a writer, but I think more importantly you need to believe in your work. Writing can be a very humbling experience so I think that you have to be open to criticism and continue to question your work in order to perfect it. For me, telling my story honestly and completely was critical. I want people to read my story and find relevance, truth, and applicability to their own life in some way.

Obviously, I think that many people from the LGBTQ community may at first glance find my book appealing enough to take a chance on it. However, I wanted my book to have wide appeal to help people understand same sex love to begin to open up a door to understanding and eventual acceptance. I believe that my book could have wide appeal with many readers because my story speaks of relationship struggles and the questions that many people deal with whether they or in a marriage or not. My story is like so many love stories--to find a satisfying love and be loved fully, authentically, and honestly. Love is love!

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Mark
4/24/2020 12:52:37 pm

Timing feels important when you want to get your book out there. However, once it is published, it will keep selling for decades. In the long run, it's more important to get it properly written and published, than to rush the book to market.
As you know, I read and promote a book almost every week. Occasionally, I do two a week. I find spelling errors in every book except once a year, I find a book without spelling errors.
You are right again. A writer needs to believe in their writing, because there are going to be lots of criticisms to help them make the book as good as possible. If they enter the query process, there is much more outright rejection to be faced.
There are many takeaways from your book, for people in relationships. Everyone wants to be loved for who they are.
New questions.
Do you see an advantage of writing under a pseudonym, why or why not?
If you were to start writing fiction would you use a pen name? Why or why not?

J. D. Simmons link
4/24/2020 02:32:22 pm

For me, writing under a pseudonym had an advantage. There are some people in my life that I'm not "out" to. They know that I'm divorced but have no idea that I'm in a same-sex relationship. Also, I'm working part-time and in my profession and in the conservative South, my relationship with a woman could be viewed as negative and immoral. Also, some people in my story don't know of the book and I changed everyone's names. I decided I would protect the guilty as well as the innocent.

I think if I wrote a fictional book, I would be less likely to publish under a pseudonym mainly because I wouldn't feel the need to protect my identity or identities of my characters.

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Mark
4/24/2020 04:06:55 pm

Your reasons for using a pen name for this book make a lot of sense. Publishing fiction under your real name or another pen name might be a good idea also.
New questions.
Did you read books in the memoir genre before you thought of writing your book?
Are there any issues particular to writing a memoir that might not apply to other genres?
Are there any writing styles or genres that you disliked at first but soon came to like?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/24/2020 07:31:39 pm

Yes, I read a few memoirs before I wrote my book. I've always enjoyed true stories, stories of people's lives, and the struggles and triumphs they have lived through.

I think that a memoir should be an enjoyable read just like any other book. It should be well written and well edited like any other book. I believe that a memoir should be memorable and provide a degree of relevance or a worthwhile message. I was very cognizant of the pace of my book--I absolutely did not want it to drag for the reader. In the past, the only reason I've not finished a book that I started was because I became too bogged down.
I thought that I would never read horror because I'm too much of a scaredy cat! When I read The Stand by Stephen King I wasn't sure that I would be able to finish it because it was really scary, but it was great! I haven't really read Sci-Fi, but I think that I should give it a try. Other than that, I think that I enjoy a wide range of genres!

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Mark
4/24/2020 07:46:54 pm

I agree with your take on memoirs, they need to be interesting and like fiction there needs to be a problem that is overcome.
I don't read much horror also. Many years ago I binged on H.P. Lovecraft and it burned me out on extreme, gothic horror. I found his writing to be dark and lugubrious, just like it was supposed to be.
For sci-fi, or anything he writes, that will make you laugh, I recommend Tegon Maus. I have reviewed several of his books elsewhere on my website. He has written in several genres.
New questions.
Do you think reading, watching movies or listening to music help you be a better writer?
What type of book is your favorite guilty pleasure to read or listen to for fun?
Have you ever read a book that changed the way you look at writing?

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J.D. Simmons link
4/24/2020 08:59:51 pm

Thanks for the tip on H. P. Lovecraft!

I'm an avid supporter of the arts! I appreciate so much the artists of the world! My dad was a really good artist (watercolors). He couldn't afford to do it as a full-time job, but taught me to love the arts. My partner is also very artistic (different mediums). For me, I think reading, watching movies, and listening to music help me and impact my creativity. How could they not?

I don't know that I have a type of book that is a favorite guilty pleasure. I have a friend that lost track of the number of romance novels that she read. I've never been a fan, so I asked her what she found so entertaining about romance novels. She told me that she loved that it was pure pleasure reading and the smuttier, the better.
As of late, I have really gotten turned on to podcasts! I listen to political podcasts, but my favorite are the crime podcasts. I listened to one podcast about a true story called, "Dear John." Excellent.
the thought of audio brings me to thinking about having my book become an audio book. I would love for my book to be made into audio book, but that would be another investment of money, unless I decided to do it myself.

I think that every time I read a really, really good book, it changes the way that I look at writing. It's very humbling because it sets the bar so high, but it inspires me to be the best that I can be--not in a comparative sort of way, but to just keep pushing.
Some of the best authors and best books leave me in total awe! I sometimes think, "Why didn't story come to me?"

Mark
4/24/2020 09:15:53 pm

I love watercolors also. A depth can be expressed in a special way.
I am a news and information junkie also. It would be easy for me to go down those rabbit holes. I choose to read and proofread, instead.
I think audio books are a great way to go, a different but similar medium. There are so many countries around the world that have English as the official language of business and government or it's taught in schools as a second language. Many of those countries have millions of their citizens accessing the internet with only a phone. It's a huge market.
Check out Joanna Penn on my Highly Regarded Blogs page, she is a firm believer in audio books and wide distribution. Others have blogged about audio books also.
New questions.
What was the best money you ever spent as a writer to enhance your career?
With the explosion of different streaming services, these companies are scrambling for content. Writers are going to be sitting on the top of the heap soon, because they are content providers. Have you considered shopping your content to these companies?
An e-book is only one form that writing can be consumed in. Have you considered licensing large print, graphic books, plays or audio books? Audio books, in English and translated, are exploding worldwide.

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J. D. Simmons link
4/25/2020 10:56:37 am

Thanks again for your guidance about the blog and audio books. Can you go into a little more detail about "shopping my content to companies?"
Best money spent to enhance my career? I have never paid to take a writing class, attend a convention, or participate in a book fair. Those are all endeavors that appeal to me and hopefully I can do that in the future--I think that would be money well spent. When I spent money on publishing my book, I think it was a good investment because I knew so little about the publishing business. But on the down side, I will have to sell a lot of books to break even.
I have never considered licensing large print, graphic books, plays because I have no knowledge base for consideration of these avenues. As I mentioned earlier, producing or finding someone to produce an audio book is very appealing to me. THERE CONTINUES TO BE SO MUCH TO LEARN!!

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Mark
4/25/2020 11:40:54 am

The blogs I have mentioned can provide a greater level of detail than I can here. Joanna, Anne Allen and others have done a great amount of research or have done it themselves. Joanna even did a blog about how to set up your own studio to record an audio book. Others have done similarly, but I don't have all of them linked on my website.
Kristine Rusch has done a great series called Business Musings, she talks a lot about licensing in many different forms. Keep in mind that content in any form will outlive you, it will be available for consumption for a long time. Make sure you have a good lawyer.
Publishing your book with an independent publisher gave you a lot of information and experience. You are better equipped to make wiser decisions now.
New questions.
What are your favorite reference books or websites for grammar and writing?
Why do most authors write in 3rd person POV instead of first and second POV?
Were you a plotter or a pantster when you started writing? Will that change with your next book?

J. D. Simmons link
4/25/2020 04:20:52 pm

Thanks for the names of valuable people to provide information and their blogs. I will use your website in the future, also!
While working in Microsoft Word, I use the thesaurus and spell check constantly. After I finished my draft, I used ProWriting Aid. It was a huge program and I had to just use parts because it would have been too much! I used it to help me find repetitive words and to reduce the number of adverbs which is supposed to make your writing cleaner.

I think most authors write in 3rd person point of view because because they can narrate and provide information about all the characters and action in the book. As a narrator, they are free to tell the story in a more objective way. I think 3rd person POV is well suited to fiction, whereas, I wrote my memoir in first person.

I think for my next book, I will be a plotter. It's just my nature to be a plotter rather than a pantster. I also know that I'm wordy and will probably always need to cut out versus add more. I like to be as organized as possible in my work. I think that I will always work from an outline, but I'm not opposed to adding and deleting chapters or sections, once I get past the rough draft and am looking to refine my piece of work.

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Mark
4/25/2020 04:45:47 pm

When you read some of those blogs, be sure to read the comments also, frequently there is good information there also.
ProWritingAid is a big program with lots of helpful reports. I have recommended it to a few other writers. I actually hadn't tested ProWritingAid against my ability to find spelling errors, now I know. I have checked Grammarly and Ginger, neither of them finds everything I find.
I think you are right about 3rd person POV. It is easier, especially because we are story tellers by nature. Narration begins at the earliest of ages. One of my granddaughters, would dance and sing her narration of her day when she was three and four.
New questions.
What is the easiest part of writing a book in general?
What did you buy with your first royalty check?
How did you celebrate when you published your first book?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/27/2020 12:02:32 pm

Overall, writing a book is a very involved, laborious process. I think the easiest part (and sometimes most difficult) part is getting a flow of
ideas, feelings, events down on paper. It really can be freeing and therapeutic! As an author, though, recounting and reliving some painful moments can be very difficult. I remember reading a recent review of my work and the reviewer said that parts of my book were dramatic or overly dramatic. I was really quite taken aback. I thought, "I lived through those events, and yes, many events were heartbreaking and tragic and it wasn't about the drama. It was the truth."

I didn't buy anything with my first royalty check. I just deposited it into my bank account. Publishing my book cost several thousand dollars and I have not recouped any where close to that through sales. I also paid extra for editing services--which I probably would do different next time. I'm staying optimistic and would love it if my book would just take off in sales! If I actually broke even, I would be happy, but would continue to hope for sales to be more successful.

I didn't celebrate the publishing of my book in a special way. I think if sales increased and I actually made some money, I would want to celebrate with a trip!

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Mark
4/27/2020 12:22:04 pm

What you say makes a lot of sense, laboring over each word in the final stages to achieve the perfect atmosphere and effect is something every author goes through. The process is easier at sometimes than others.
It's easy to be an armchair quarterback, looking in from the outside. An author never knows how her book will affect another person without a review. I have heard it said, more than once, a book is never complete until it's read. That reviewer may have had painful memories revived by your book.
Fortunately, your book will be available for years to come, but for many authors breaking even seems to take a long time. The more licensing that can be done the better the chances of making a profit in the future.
New questions.
How many times did you rewrite the first page, the first chapter of this book?
Do you have a “favorite” filler word or two that you have to keep taking out of a story, like “just” or like “like”?
What was the earliest experience that made you realize that you could influence and change lives with the power of writing?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/27/2020 01:25:57 pm

As usual, great questions and thanks for your feedback and remarks.

I wrote the first chapter early on, but I continued to rewrite and edit small parts of that first chapter, as I did through my book. To me, the editing process was brutal. I got to a point where I wondered if I would ever finish. I think I could have put my book away for several months and edited it again and again. I'm not sure how many times I rewrote parts of the first chapter. I just wanted it to pull the reader in and make them want to read more. I hope I accomplished that.

I think that I write "that" too much. Seems like I had to look at "that" when editing.

I do believe that words have power. I think the first inkling probably comes when you write notes to your mom or dad as a young child. When I went away to college, I cried and cried after my parents dropped me off at the dorm. I sat down immediately and wrote a letter. I assume I gave it to them as they left to go home. It must have had some funny parts because I remember later that my mom told me that she and my dad were reading my letter in the car and had to pull off on the side of the road because they were laughing so hard!
I would love to think that the words in my book are powerful, helpful, comforting, and enlightening to the people who read it. I would be honored to know that.

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Mark
4/27/2020 02:11:39 pm

You are welcome.
Conventional wisdom stresses how important the first line, first paragraph, first chapter are to engage the reader. You worked hard on that and it paid off.
Self-editing is hard, it takes a particular mental rigor to do it well. An author has to pretend that the book belongs to someone else and attack it mercilessly and thoroughly. There are many ways to accomplish that. Putting the manuscript away for several weeks can be very helpful, reading it aloud is another, as well as reading it backwards, paragraph by paragraph or sentence by sentence. Some writers will change font or font color also to shake their brain out of the doldrums. Making your eyes fresh to the manuscript is very important.
"That" is a very common filler word, so is like, just and others.
You were crying and your parents were laughing, what an unusual thing to happen.
I think your book will provide many encouragement and comfort to many.
New questions.
Do you think good marketing can overcome the limitations of a mediocre book?
What is the biggest myth about writing that would help aspiring authors?
How do you balance the demands on your time as a writer with personal relationships?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/27/2020 03:07:39 pm

Thank you for your input about my first chapter. I reread it when I saw your question. I like it--maybe I'm not super critical, but at one point, it gave me goose bumps. So, it can still illicit emotion from me.

I'm not sure about whether or not marketing can overcome the limitations of a mediocre book. I recently read some reviews of a book from a well-known author. The reviews weren't (overall) very good, but I feel this author probably sold a lot of copies because of aggressive marketing and the reputation of her previous books. Perhaps if an author had a good bit of money to spend, the book could be marketed successfully regardless of the quality of the book.

I think the biggest myth is that some aspiring authors believe they have to be a professional writer in order to publish a book. They lack the confidence and belief in their story. I would encourage them to begin writing as often as possible. Let someone that is trustworthy, read your book and give an honest opinion after reading a few chapters or rough draft. When I think about my own experience, my partner and friends encouraged me to tell my story, but they really weren't totally familiar with my ability to write.

It is critical to have a balance with work and your personal life. Whether you view writing as your profession or a part-time endeavor, you have to find time to relax, play, and spend time with family and/or friends. In my opinion, it makes you better on the job! When I was working on my book, I was still working full-time and I had a very demanding job. When I was home, I would set aside a specified period of time to work on my book, but that didn't take away from social or family time. Also, there were times that I had to put my book down because I needed some distance and time to think. I don't know if I would call it writer's block, but I knew that I needed a break.

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Mark
4/27/2020 04:19:39 pm

I think your goosebumps are a good sign.
I think it's likely for a lot of publicity to give a mediocre book a great start. Once the mediocre reviews start to roll in the tide will turn.
Confidence is a funny thing, even the most successful author deals with the inner critic with each new book. It's no surprise that a new author can be nearly paralyzed with fear.
You were very fortunate to have a cheering squad.
Last questions.
Do you have any other passions or creative outlets to pursue if you didn't write?
What will you do differently with your next book, in terms of publishing, if anything?
Do you use music or some other stimulus to cultivate a feeling within that will help you write certain types of scenes?

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J. D. Simmons link
4/27/2020 06:26:13 pm

I am feeling some sadness knowing these are the end of the interview questions. Mark, this has been a wonderful process! I am so appreciative of your efforts in promoting my book! Thanks a million!

I am so blessed to be healthy and active. I am devoted to my children and grandchildren. I do all my own yard work and spend a lot of time working in my yard (especially at this time of the year). When I was in my 30's, I started running with some good friends and we ran in 10K races just for the purpose of setting goals and staying active. More than 10 years ago, I got back into my running after a long period of time. I mention this in my book. Running is a great outlet and a healthy passion. I also am passionate about DIY projects on my home so that I'm constantly looking for the next project. I also help friends and family with their projects and yard work!

I believe for my next book I will try to pitch my book to an agent or a publishing company. I think it would be worth a try. I would probably devote a specific period of time and effort before I turned to self-publishing.

I don't necessarily use music or anything else to cultivate my writing, although I'm a lover of music and I enjoy a large variety of music. For me, it's more of a mood that cultivates my desire to write. Also, I mentioned that I use notes (on my phone or written) that I refer to when I'm ready to write. Sometimes, for days at a time, I might think about notes and expound on them mentally before I begin writing. For the most part, I am planning ahead of time what section of the book I want to work on or edit before I even sit down at the computer.

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Mark
4/27/2020 07:15:50 pm

Staying active in multiple ways is supposed to contribute to good health. It sounds like it has worked for you. Congratulations. I tried jogging many years ago, I switched to Olympic-style speed walking because my knees didn't like it. Lately, I have been just strolling.
I wish you well in your plan to pitch your next book. There are many posts written about query letters, elevator pitches and seeking representation with an agent. On my Twitter home page, I have many lists including a list of agents. It might be worth your while to follow some of those and learn about what they like and dislike. I feel the entire process is stacked against the writer. Though the publishers need new material to publish so it's a difficult and tense situation. It will likely require much patience on your part.
You seem to have a better than average connection with your muse. What a wonderful thing.
I have another promotion starting tomorrow. So I must say farewell, for now, and keep on writing. You have been a fabulous guest to chat with. Thank you again for your time and effort.

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